From Fawn to Fun Hot Bitch Mom

 

I was at the gym, mascara in hand, when a young woman approached. "Do you drive a red convertible?" she asked. When I nodded, she grinned. "I just wanted you to know that I've seen you working out here and and I've seen you driving in your convertible, and you know what? You're a hot bitch!" She meant it as a compliment, and we both laughed. Then she added, "I wanted a convertible too, so I got one. I saw you and thought, why wait?"

That moment crystallized everything about the transformation I'd been living. After a decade as a single mom, I had finally stepped into my power. And that random gym encounter gave me the perfect name for my program: The Fun Hot-Bitch Mom Experience.

There are approximately 15 million single moms in America right now. We're some of the most hardworking, dedicated, and disadvantaged people in this country. I know because I lived this reality for over 10 years, piecing together solutions one painful year at a time.

What took me a decade to figure out, I've condensed into a 90-day program. Why? So other single moms can spend the next 10 years doing what they were meant to do all along: living vibrant, abundant, joyful lives that benefit both themselves and their children.

Single Moms Aren't Vulnerable to the Fawn Response. They Already Have It.

Most single moms aren't vulnerable to developing the fawn response pattern. They already have it, more than likely. What they're actually vulnerable to is being exploited, manipulated, and taken advantage of. Probably that's the scenario of their marriage in the first place.

Women are wired to be nurturers. We give birth. We take care of people. That predisposes us to fawning behaviors from the start. Add small children with constant demands, a taker for a spouse, and other people around you who are also takers, and suddenly you have nothing left for yourself.

Not all women are fawns, of course. Plenty of women are takers, exploiters, and manipulators themselves. But the majority of single moms fall on the fawn response side, partly from being a mom in the first place.

Most fawns are stuck in hiding mode. They've become diminished, evaporated,  and have disappeared. They've lost their voice and dreams, sinking back into the wall like wallflowers, becoming nondescript, boring, blah. Because how dare they have personality? How dare they pursue dreams? How dare they actually be who they're supposed to be?

Grow Some...Antlers: The Counterintuitive Truth About Being a Better Mom

The most counterintuitive thing we teach our fawns is to grow some...antlers! That means standing up for yourself and stop giving yourself away to takers to the point of depletion.

This seems so backward because as a mom, taking care of everybody else is your job. You've got kids who need you. You've got friends who need you. You've got a community that needs you. A school that needs you. And on it goes.

The best thing these moms can learn is to put themselves first. Not in a selfish way. But to actually make room for their real needs instead of just saying, "Sure, I'll do that" when they know they should be saying no.

I watched my mom die of cancer. I know firsthand that the stress from my narcissistic dad created that illness in her, and she succumbed to it after a horrible, long battle. The stress of not taking care of yourself causes disease. Not standing up for yourself leads to cancer, heart disease, diabetes, strokes, and more.

Many studies show the correlation between chronic stress and illness. When you live in chronic fawning, in chronic cortisol production, you're setting yourself up for disease. Or like in my case, depression so severe you want to check out entirely. For me, that meant wanting to leave the planet.

Financial Independence Through Purpose Discovery

In the Fun Hot-Bitch Mom Experience, we teach strategies to create generational wealth that takes care of both mom and kids for years to come. We help single moms rediscover their dreams and life purpose, then connect those to monetization opportunities.

One problem many single moms face is they don't even have time to think about their dreams. We teach them that yes, they do have time, and more importantly, they need to make time. It's not optional. It's necessary.

The first three steps of our program address this directly. We help them cut through years of fawn conditioning, rediscover their authentic desires, and learn how to monetize them. They build a supportive community of people with high loving energy around them.

These moms don't have to stay trapped in stagnant lives where they can't grow, can't move ahead, and are just stuck working multiple jobs, exhausted by day's end. Who has time to dream with all that going on? We break through all of that with our program.

No Takers Allowed: Building a Different Kind of Community

Our community differs from traditional single mom support groups because it's built with and by Rebel Fawns. These are people who are enthusiastic, wanting success for themselves and others too. They can fawn with each other all they want because everyone is safe. It's like having a sign on the door that says "No Takers Allowed!"

This provides accountability without walking on eggshells. That's huge because coming out of the fawn response pattern, it's difficult to be vulnerable when you're so used to being chastised and belittled for any shortcoming. But they won't find that here because, again, Rebel Fawns!

As these moms make changes through our program, they naturally start attracting people with loving high energy elsewhere too. It's not just our specific group, though it happens there. It also happens organically through other people they meet as their own energy shifts.

The Work-Life Balance Myth

Work-life balance is truly a myth and absolutely exhausting to pursue. What we do instead is help single moms exchange different areas of their time, moving from non-productive activities to productive ones.

We help them become self-sufficient by exchanging the employee mindset for the creator mindset. They're no longer spending time making somebody else's dreams come true. Instead, they're working to make their own dreams reality while incorporating their kids into the plan.

By doing this, they're not only pursuing dreams and building new income streams, but their kids are watching, learning, and growing. By including their children, they spend more quality time together. Moms can enlist their kids' help, giving them skin in the game for whatever venture she's chosen.

They work together toward common goals, building their own little community of support and encouragement. This teaches kids important life lessons while creating both generational wealth and the legacy of a transformed life.

Children Learn What They Live: The Surprising Transformation

The most surprising way mothers transform their relationship with their kids is through what the kids witness. The children observe their single mom transforming and taking on exciting new challenges. When mothers involve them in this work, children feel part of something important.

This is crucial, especially with custody arrangements where kids go back and forth. They still have the influence of the other parent, who typically is difficult since we're dealing with fawns here, who often partner with these types of people.

When children watch their mom transform into something much more than she was before, they learn several vital lessons: A) transformation is possible, B) they can do it too, and C) they can choose which path to follow. Do they want to be like their manipulative parent, or like their mom who's becoming more authentic, stronger, and living her dreams?

Plus, moms who prioritize their own well-being are actually present for their kids. Not in a selfish way, but they're healthy and energetic enough to be there, which matters tremendously.

The Spiritual Dimension: Finding Strength in Connection

The spiritual factor in our program is especially important for single moms because they feel profoundly alone much of the time. They're parenting largely on their own and, more often than not, parenting more because their self-serving ex doesn't really want the kids.

I've seen this frequently and experienced it myself. The ex often only wants to use the kids as pawns to get at mom. Therefore, a single mom, especially a fawn-type single mom, is much more likely to feel isolated and alone.

The spiritual aspect provides a different kind of community. We offer a tangible community of Rebel Fawns, but spirituality brings an intangible community that helps her tap into much more power and resources than she ever thought possible. This cannot be overemphasized enough, accessing realms that were previously kept from her understanding.

From Survival to Legacy: The Three Core Practices

The most effective practices we use for transformation are the Rebel Dream Refresh, the Rebel Mind Reset, and the Fawn Pattern Breakthrough. These three are crucial because from them, everything else falls into place more easily in creating the life she really wants.

In our Fawn Pattern Breakthrough, we help single moms identify how they ended up in the fawn pattern initially, how to navigate that awareness, and see how it impacts their current life. This builds a meaningful legacy because their kids witness this happening in real time.

Children can begin working on their own dreams simultaneously, learning from this process. Then as adults with their own kids, they can share this legacy, implementing these principles in their own parenting immediately and raising their children this way from the start. And on it goes.

90 Days to Transform What Took Me 10 Years

My experience over the decade it took to figure all this out was somewhat linear. I learned one thing, which took about a year. Then I learned another thing, taking another year. Then another piece of the puzzle, another year, and so on.

I've combined all these elements to make the journey more condensed. In 90 days, with three action steps for each of our nine courses, you can accomplish what took me 10 years. There's a lot to do, but the transformation is worth it.

The Fun Hot-Bitch Mom Experience saves you time so you can spend the next decade doing what you were meant to do all along. You're supposed to be living an abundant, vibrant, joyful life. You'll save yourself years in front of your kids so they can benefit sooner from watching you be who you truly are.

Through our program, single moms discover who they really are and carry that forward with joy, excitement, fun, vibrancy, freedom, peace, and calm in their lives. That's exactly what the Fun Hot-Bitch Mom Experience delivers, and why that name, born in a gym one day, perfectly summarizes what we do.